[PDF] Myth Of The Perfect Mother eBook

Author : Avital Norman Nathman
Publisher : Seal Press
Page : 290 pages
File Size : 38,55 MB
Release : 2013-12-31
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 1580055036

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In an era of mommy blogs, Pinterest, and Facebook, The Good Mother Myth dismantles the social media-fed notion of what it means to be a "good mother." This collection of essays takes a realistic look at motherhood and provides a platform for real voices and raw stories, each adding to the narrative of motherhood we don't tend to see in the headlines or on the news. From tales of mind-bending, panic-inducing overwhelm to a reflection on using weed instead of wine to deal with the terrible twos, the honesty of the essays creates a community of mothers who refuse to feel like they're in competition with others, or with the notion of the ideal mom—they're just trying to find a way to make it work. With a foreword by Christy Turlington Burns and a contributor list that includes Jessica Valenti, Sharon Lerner, Soraya Chemaly, Amber Dusick and many more, this remarkable collection seeks to debunk the myth and offer some honesty about what it means to be a mother.

Author : Carla Barnhill
Publisher :
Page : 196 pages
File Size : 31,59 MB
Release : 2004
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9780801064661

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Barnhill asserts that much of what people understand to be God's ideal is actually based on secular culture. Barnhill addresses several issues mothers struggle with and offers a positive view of motherhood based on biblical principles.

Author : Susan Douglas
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 420 pages
File Size : 42,34 MB
Release : 2005-02-08
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9780743260466

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Now in paperback, the provocative book that has ignited fiery debate and created a dialogue among women about the state of motherhood today. In THE MOMMY MYTH, Susan Douglas and Meredith Michaels turn their 'sharp, funny, and fed-up prose' (San Diego Union Tribune) toward the cult of the new momism, a trend in Western culture that suggests that women can only achieve contentment through the perfection of mothering. Even so, the standards of this ideal remain out of reach, no matter how hard women try to 'have it all'. THE MOMMY MYTH skilfully maps the distance travelled from the days when THE FEMININE MYSTIQUE demanded more for women than keeping house and raising children, to today's not-so-subtle pressure to reverse this trend. A must-read for every woman.

Author : Shari L. Thurer
Publisher :
Page : 0 pages
File Size : 19,19 MB
Release : 2001-06
Category :
ISBN : 9780788198977

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This groundbreaking & irreverent history of motherhood is for any mother who's ever been made to feel guilty or frazzled by society's impossible expectations. Thurer wends her way from the Stone Age to the age of Hillary Clinton, painting a vivid, often frightening picture of life for mothers & children in a time when their roles were constructed by men. She debunks myth after myth -- exposing the not-so-golden ages of Classical Greece & the Italian Renaissance, & revealing the pervasive ideal of Dr. Spock's selfless, stay-at-home mother as the historical aberration it actually was. A positive, sensible, & readable history directed to women in the throes of the experience.

Author : Michele Filgate
Publisher : Simon & Schuster
Page : 288 pages
File Size : 29,87 MB
Release : 2020-08-11
Category : Literary Collections
ISBN : 1982107359

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“You will devour these beautifully written—and very important—tales of honesty, pain, and resilience” (Elizabeth Gilbert, New York Times bestselling author of Eat Pray Love and City of Girls) from fifteen brilliant writers who explore how what we don’t talk about with our mothers affects us, for better or for worse. As an undergraduate, Michele Filgate started writing an essay about being abused by her stepfather. It took her more than a decade to realize that she was actually trying to write about how this affected her relationship with her mother. When it was finally published, the essay went viral, shared on social media by Anne Lamott, Rebecca Solnit, and many others. This gave Filgate an idea, and the resulting anthology offers a candid look at our relationships with our mothers. Leslie Jamison writes about trying to discover who her seemingly perfect mother was before ever becoming a mom. In Cathi Hanauer’s hilarious piece, she finally gets a chance to have a conversation with her mother that isn’t interrupted by her domineering (but lovable) father. André Aciman writes about what it was like to have a deaf mother. Melissa Febos uses mythology as a lens to look at her close-knit relationship with her psychotherapist mother. And Julianna Baggott talks about having a mom who tells her everything. As Filgate writes, “Our mothers are our first homes, and that’s why we’re always trying to return to them.” There’s relief in acknowledging how what we couldn’t say for so long is a way to heal our relationships with others and, perhaps most important, with ourselves. Contributions by Cathi Hanauer, Melissa Febos, Alexander Chee, Dylan Landis, Bernice L. McFadden, Julianna Baggott, Lynn Steger Strong, Kiese Laymon, Carmen Maria Machado, André Aciman, Sari Botton, Nayomi Munaweera, Brandon Taylor, and Leslie Jamison.

Author : Alyson Schafer
Publisher : Harper Collins
Page : 224 pages
File Size : 15,55 MB
Release : 2013-07-02
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 1443427152

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As a psychotherapist, parent educator and parent coach, Alyson Schfer has worked with a great many mothers who, in the quest to be a "good mother" have ended up on the door step of despair. Alyson is a forty-something, suburbanite, working-mother of two and can speak to these issues both personally and professionally. This book explains the psycho-social phenomena of how each person creates their own unique "good mother myth" and then examines why these myths are not only faulty, but could in fact lead to poor parenting, marital disaster and individual crisis. Her years of educating parents around these concepts afford Alyson the skill to take complex ideas and explain them to a lay audience in a compelling and easy to understand way. Capitalizing on the need to present parents with information in an easy to digest format, the book is presented as a series of personal stories, each highlighting a common parenting myth. This format will appeal to tired parents who have little time and energy for "academia". Instead, readers learn by taking a voyeuristic peek into the private family lives of the book's characters. Readers can identify with the fictitious parents and coaching clients in the stories and see first hand how the characters life experiences shaped their unique "good mother myths" and how these myths create conflict in their lives. The author offers up ideas for how the character can reject her current thinking and adopt a more useful outlook to improve her situation. The story arc allows readers to identify and then project how their parenting may be unknowingly going off the rails. The goal of this book is to provide parents with some basic education and a means of self-discovery. Readers uncover their own good mother myths and are given an eye-opening glimpse into potential issues to challenge their thinking. A great sense of empowerment is restored as mothers become better able to resist the pulls of their personal and cultural myths, and instead begin parenting with greater intention and in ways that are more suitable to proper child guidance.

Author : Jane Swigart
Publisher : McGraw-Hill/Contemporary
Page : 276 pages
File Size : 37,11 MB
Release : 1998
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9780809229383

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The Myth of the Perfect Mother explodes today's popular "good mother/bad mother" myth and helps the reader both rethink the cultural roles of motherhood and understand the deeper issues that underlie the experience of child rearing. Dr. Swigart's discussions of what it means to nurture include the complexities of parental guilt, maternal clinging, and maintaining one's individuality. She is honest -- sometimes painfully so -- but provides the strength for every mother to revel in her unique, ever-changing role.

Author : Bruno Bettelheim
Publisher : Vintage
Page : 404 pages
File Size : 32,83 MB
Release : 1988-03-12
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 0394757769

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In this book, the preeminent child psychologist of our time gives us the results of his lifelong effort to determine what is most crucial in successful child-rearing. His purpose is not to give parents preset rules for raising their children, but rather to show them how to develop their own insights so that they will understand their own and their children's behavior in different situations and how to cope with it. Above all, he warns, parents must not indulge their impulse to try to create the child they would like to have, but should instead help each child fully develop into the person he or she would like to be.

Author : Kimberley Converse
Publisher : Harvest House Publishers
Page : 316 pages
File Size : 40,42 MB
Release : 1993
Category : Family & Relationships
ISBN : 9781565070769

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Here'a a book that does away with the notion that there's only one "best" way to be a good mom. A complete personality/skills assessment helps to identify the sources of unrealistic expectations in one's life. By adjusting parenting skills to personal characteristics, mothers can do a better job of raising children and get rid of stress and exhaustion in the process.

Author : Daniel N Stern
Publisher : Basic Books
Page : 185 pages
File Size : 28,25 MB
Release : 1998-12-03
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 0786724625

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As you prepare to become a mother, you face an experience unlike any other in your life. Having a baby will redirect your preferences and pleasures and, most likely, will realign some of your values.As you undergo this unique psychological transformation, you will be guided by new hopes, fears, and priorities. In a most startling way, having a child will influence all of your closest relationships and redefine your role in your family's history. The charting of this remarkable, new realm is the subject of this compelling book.Renowned psychiatrist Daniel N. Stern has joined forces with pediatrician and child psychiatrist Nadia Bruschweiler-Stern and journalist Alison Freeland to paint a wonderfully evocative picture of the psychology of motherhood. At the heart of The Birth of a Mother is an arresting premise: Just as a baby develops physically in utero and after birth, so a mother is born psychologically in the many months that precede and follow the birth of her baby.The recognition of this inner transformation emerges from hundreds of interviews with new mothers and decades of clinical experience. Filled with revealing case studies and personal comments from women who have shared this experience, this book will serve as an invaluable sourcebook for new mothers, validating the often confusing emotions that accompany the development of this new identity. In addition to providing insight into the unique state of motherhood, the authors touch on related topics such as going back to work, fatherhood, adoption, and premature birth.During pregnancy, mothers-to-be talk about morning sickness and their changing bodies, and new mothers talk about their exhaustion, the benefits of nursing or bottle-feeding, and the dilemma of whether or when they should return to work. And yet, they can be strangely mute about the dramatic and often overwhelming changes going on in their inner lives. Finally, with The Birth of a Mother, these powerful feelings are eloquently put into words.